I recently experienced a troubling situation at work during a meeting about how the place is being operated and to make sure we all are doing our jobs.. I need some advice or maybe just need to vent. Ugh. Here it goes.
I have been at my job since 2007. This job has its perks but also its drawbacks. I’ve learned so much and have been given a great opportunity to advance in the hospitality industry. Which, I am 100 percent thankful for. During this time I have moved up several ladders to get where I am at, now. From a housekeeper to an manager. I work with some wonderful and diverse groups of people. And I can’t think of a better job to have. Well, other than being with animals all day. But I don’t have that luxury.Β
A coworker that I have worked with just short of 9 years was told about a conversation that occurred during a very stressful time at work, and I can say, (I am NOT proud of how I conducted the situation. I acted rather than thought on it.) BIG MISTAKE.
During this time at work, our General Manager experienced a tragedy which in turn caused us to be short staffed. Already running on fumes due to her being off the previous week. I knew that I would be in for a along week. I am after all the Assistant Manager, I would have to take on some extra time. Which was fine because I completely understand. I am after all, a team player.. But I still have a right to bitch about it if I want. Right? No one here is as overworked as me.. I can say that with 100 percent certainty.Β
So, fast forward to the day of the meeting..
I was under the impression that we were at this meeting to talk about some of the issues we were seeing and to help correct them. All employees had their time and said their peace. I soon realized that there was an alliterative motive in place. Somehow, the meeting was focused on me. About how I conduct as a manger. I was a little dumbfounded at first because, I’m like what could I have possibly done? I do my job and make sure everything is smooth for the GM. One of the front desk agents goes on to say that I don’t know how to remove a patron, the legality of it. Which I was unsure of at the time. And I fixed by asking the GM, the correct way to handle that kind of situation.
1st off- I am a Manager. I do not have to explain to other what I know or what I am doing other than my GM. As long as I am doing my job, there should be no question about my work ethic.
2nd-I asked what other problems she felt she had with my job and she couldn’t find any other issues. Problem solved. But wait? I thought I didn’t know how to conduct myself, so what other issues do I have? I never did get any other answers. Moving on. Really no biggie.
As that issue is dying down, its the next employees turn to speak. And wouldn’t you know it. It’s about me. Lol. Yea, I’m not making this up lol.
Previously, I had spoken to an old supervisor about an issue I was having with an employee, Because she had worked as a supervisor, I inquired about the situation and listened intently to see if I could find any way to solve this issue. This old supervisor which is related to the GM, went and told the employee that I was bad mouthing this other employee. Told her that this employee, I felt wasn’t being fair and it was very disrespectful to not help out and to make me work 7 days for the week when front desk employees only had 32 to 40 hours.Which was not my intention. {Not sure if I said this but I am still in training to become an actual manager.}Β
Whatever. Over that situation but I can’t help but go back to this employee mind frame. Why? Jealousy?When I look for wisdom, why would i get a slap in the face. This is NOT professional at all. I also do so much for this gossiper.. Matter of fact, the same day as meeting I gave her a 60 dollar bag of dog treats. I’ such a horrible person, right?
What bothers me more than these issues, is that not one person had my back. After working overtime and trying to help these girls out, this is what i get. After, 12 years, this is what I get………….
Thoughts? Am I in the wrong?